I talk to so many new home stagers or people wanting to get into the home staging business and almost every single one of them eventually mentions how their own fear can get in the way of moving forward.
Depending on where they are in their business, these fears can range from “what if the furniture is too heavy to move?” , or “what if I don’t get paid?” to “what if my client’s house doesn’t sell?”
It’s normal for fears to come up when you start a new project as a home stager, or when you think about stepping out of your comfort zone to start your own home staging business.
The trick is to not let these fears paralyze you and stop you from taking action. This exercise will help give you some perspective and keep you focused on solutions rather than problems. A solution-based mindset is one of the most helpful things you can have to forward with courage despite your fears.
Set up a new document on your computer with three columns, or turn a piece of paper sideways and divide it, making these headings across the top:
– My biggest fears
– The worst thing that can happen if these fears are realized
– Possible solutions; places where I can go for help
Now fill it out with every wild “what if” fear that is buzzing around your brain and keeping you up at night. Really, write down every crazy thing even if part of you thinks it’s dumb, or worse, too scary to mention. I promise it will lose some of its power over you as soon as you write it down.
For example if your fear is “the furniture is too heavy to move” the worst thing that can happen is you’ll need help. Possible solutions might include:
- asking some college kids who might like to make some extra money on an evening or weekend
- asking your client if they have any friends or family members that can help to keep their costs down
- asking moving and storage companies, or junk removal companies if they have people who can help (since clients with lots of furniture to move also need one of these other services 99% of the time)
- asking yourself whether this random worry is really enough to hold you back from following your dreams
If your fear is “what if I don’t get paid” the worst thing that can happen is you’ll be out your own money for shopping or rentals, or some of your time. Possible solutions might include:
- Following the billing process and advice outlined in courses 2 and 3 of the Staging Diva Home Staging Business Training Program so this never happens to you.
If your fear is what will happen if your client’s home doesn’t sell, read this free article, What If a Home You Stage Doesn’t Sell?”
I hope this exercise, taken from the Staging Diva Training Workbook, helps you realize that in the scheme of things, the “worst thing that could happen” probably isn’t all that bad after all.
Please share your fears by adding comments to this post. You might include how you dealt with them or found solutions. I know it will help educate and inspire your fellow home stagers!
Debra Gould, The Staging Diva®
President, Six Elements Inc. Home Staging
Home staging expert Debra Gould, also known as The Staging Diva is president of home staging firm Six Elements Inc. and has been featured on HGTV, GlobalTV, CityTV, CNNMoney, MoneySense, Entrepreneur Magazine, Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day and more. She has staged hundreds of homes in the $170,000 to $1.5 million price range and taught close to 4000 women and men worldwide to start and grow their own home staging business.
Loi says
Before Fear: not getting paid.
After Solution: get paid because of Debra’s billing strategy (love you, Debra!)& Leah Fritz’ gutsy reply to freeloaders (that always makes me grin)
Before Fear: where to find clients
After Solution: identifying so many target markets, I’m dizzy trying to market to all of them! (love you again, Debra!)
Current Fear: rental furniture is hard to get during spring
After Solution: don’t know yet, sigh!…but, so far, I haven’t needed them yet
Debra Gould, The Staging Diva says
Loi, thanks so much for sharing those and for that great feedback! Keep going, you’re doing great!
Kate says
I’ve been in business for 3 years and as time goes on, new challenges and fears come up. The difference is that with more confidence and experience the fears arise less frequently and become less problematic. I’ve learned to get comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing everything and not having every solution come to me immediately. When I feel myself getting worked up or fearful, I start a conversation with myself and it usually starts with, “Kate, get a hold of yourself….” Try it, it works!
Debra Gould says
Love that you shared this Kate and congratulations on 3 years in business. That’s a significant milestone, good for you!! About time I write an article on you I think 🙂 You can share some information to help me do that here.