I recently posted an article to help home stagers get rid of the negative beliefs or labels that are secretly holding them back in life and in their home staging businesses.
I challenged members in the Staging Diva community to identify a negative belief and then list 3 pieces of evidence to the contrary.
This exercise makes it easier to get out of our self-limiting beliefs because we see the lie of whatever we’re telling ourselves. Unhelpful stuff like:
- I never make appropriate decisions.
- I never follow through on things.
- Local real estate agents will never accept home staging.
- I’m not disciplined enough to become a home stager.
- I’m not a trained interior designer so people will discover I don’t know what I’m talking about.
- I’m too young/old, no one will take me seriously.
Thank you to everyone who participated with such openness and honesty! I know your comments will help you move forward and inspire others who are standing in their own way of success in a home staging business. If you haven’t done the exercise yet, I encourage you to try it, there’s no telling what personal barrier you might break through!
Jenny uncovered a fundamental belief that is really holding her back. I think it’s a pretty common (and destructive) idea so I want to address it here and get your feedback. She confided:
“Work is not supposed to be enjoyable, that is why they call it work.”
Wow, it’s like the big elephant in the room no one wants to talk about! We’re brought up to believe we need to suffer everyday to earn a living. Grown ups aren’t supposed to have fun!
It’s no accident that antidepressant medication is a $12 Billion per year industry in the US and cancer and obesity rates have never been higher.
I say “stop the madness!” If most of us need happy pills to get through the day, perhaps it’s time we started reinventing our lives and what we do for a living! Seriously, what do we have to lose? Most of us “of a certain age” have already realized that shopping and eating don’t really fill the big gaping hole left by not being satisfied with our lives.
Jenny went on to admit (and I love her for her honesty and candor):
“My husband is quite unhappy in his position (which is lucrative) and I think I would feel quite guilty if I were actually enjoying my work when he is so unhappy in his position.”
I totally understand where’s she’s coming from. Who hasn’t heard that we should feel “guilty” about enjoying ourselves? In reality though, her husband isn’t happier because she’s not happy (assuming they have a healthy relationship).
Home stagers, when we build a financially successful business doing something we love, we become positive role models for others.
We can break the negative cycle and show our spouses, kids and friends that being a grown up can actually be fun. Of course there’s still “work” involved but we don’t need to approach it as a dreaded chore.
To quote Staging Diva Graduate Laura Kakoschke of Hunter Lake Home Staging, “I work my own hours, set my schedule and my sons get a first-hand look at running a business. I hope the courage I found to follow my dream will inspire them to follow theirs, and to know that anything is possible!”
It IS possible to have meaning, joy and satisfaction in what you do for a living.
Since life is short (and it’s not a dress rehearsal), isn’t it about time we all decided to live as if that were true and make it so?
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I’m serious about being a Voice of Possibility™ and I want you to help spread the word that work can be enjoyable and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing what we love and getting paid well for it at the same time!
Debra Gould, The Staging Diva®
President, Voice of Possibility Group Inc.
Debra Gould has been an entrepreneur since 1989 after walking away from a high-paying corporate job. She developed the Staging Diva Training Program to teach others how to earn a living doing something they love. There are now more than 7,000 students in over 20 countries learning from her many products and services for home stagers.